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Thoughts on Light and Love

Writer's picture: Chaunti WarowayChaunti Waroway

Written June 6, 2018


I wrote this in 2018 and it's so beautiful to see how much has changed since then! I am not the poster child for sending light and love. Throughout my life, I’ve often been seen as the good, kind, sweet, always-understanding, loving one. These are parts of me because I strive to offer the best of myself often. But I’m more complex than that, and I never signed up to be a “good girl” 24/7.


Have you ever had people put you in a box? Expecting you to always be the funny one, the nice one, the strong one, the smart one? It’s exhausting to be held to someone else’s image of who you should be.


I’m grateful to have people in my life who keep it real, share their truths, and don’t hold me to a standard of “perfection.” It’s a reminder that I don’t have to be perfect all the time.

I believe in balance—not "good vibes only!"I am human... We are human. I’m not Buddha or Jesus—I’m still learning. I have shadows—places where I feel sadness, hurt, anger. I lose my temper, I speak my mind. I feel my feelings deeply.


When I’m with a client, I give my full attention, offering light and love. But this isn’t who I am all the time.


I’m letting go of holding myself to the same standard when I’m in service to others. Sometimes, I need to be in service to myself, which means standing up for my own feelings and allowing myself the freedom to experience the full range of human emotions. I am a healer, but I’m not a “yes” person all day, every day.


Maybe in time, I’ll be more light and love, but if I tried to be that now, it wouldn’t be authentic. I still have stuff I’m working through.


We hold healers, helpers, and teachers to such high standards that it can force them to hide their own struggles. We all have challenges and shadows we’re afraid to show. Who will want my guidance if I have my own problems? Better to keep them hidden and pretend I’m all light and love!


I see so much phoniness in this world, but also so much honesty. We’re so quick to label challenging behaviours as “toxic” and try to eliminate them right away. But life is full of discomfort and conflict—drama, even—and it’s often in the drama where the lessons lie.

“I don’t want any drama!”Life is drama. It’s where we grow. Drama helps us uncover the true gold nugget of a story.


I’m so tired of “good vibes only!”It’s not just a cute saying plastered everywhere—it’s how we sometimes treat each other. I’m not opposed to good vibes; I love them! But life is complex. We need the freedom to experience the full spectrum of human emotions.

We don’t need to hurt others or be cynical, but we must allow space for the light and the dark sides of life.


I have no interest in living in Pleasantville.

What happened to having a good debate or argument?

Are we so fragile that we can’t get a little heated and hash things out without crumbling or being labeled “crazy”?


We’re quick to block or shut down anything we don’t like. While this may be necessary at times, it’s becoming the go-to way to handle conflict.


We are not here to be perfect beings of just love and light. We are here to experience what it means to be human, with all the feelings and chaos that arise, and then offer kindness and compassion when we can.


Let’s start allowing each other to have natural human feelings. Let’s start being understanding when mistakes are made, the “wrong” thing is said, a negative reaction occurs, or someone has a different view.


We don’t need to tolerate abuse or violence, but I feel we’re now labeling even innocuous things as such. With celebrities, as soon as they mess up, they’re done. We want to see them banished. Where’s the compassion in that?


Irronically, being light and love means accepting the darkness with love too.


People should be able to express their personal views and beliefs, whether I agree or not, as long as it’s not hurting others through hate and violence.

But that’s just me. I guess people have the right to be easily offended, manipulative, condescending, and phoney with high expectations of others’ behaviour.


Maybe we’re all just scared and trying to figure this all out together. We’re all on our own path to self-discovery, making mistakes along the way!


Sending my light and love! 😉






Questions to Reflect On:

  • How can you embrace the full range of human emotions—both light and dark—without judgment or shame?

  • Where do you feel pressure to conform to an image others have of you? How can you release this expectation?

  • In what ways can you create space for others to express their emotions, even when it’s uncomfortable?


  • How can we bring more compassion into our interactions, recognizing that everyone is navigating their own journey of self-discovery?

  • What are the areas in your life where you’re being called to show up with more authenticity, even if it means embracing discomfort or imperfection?



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