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Thoughts On Being Alone

Writer's picture: Chaunti WarowayChaunti Waroway

Written on January 20, 2017


I'm beginning to value and enjoy my alone time more again lately. For a long time now I've been scared to be on my own, avoiding myself because I was scared to face who I am. There have been times in my life that I have spent a lot of time alone and it always in those moments that I learn the most about myself and am able to grow emotionally, physically, spiritually, creatively. I value my time with others a lot but just like we need to sleep to allow ourselves to subconsciously process our experience of the day, we must also allow our wakeful selves to process throughout the day. It's possible to do this process with others but for me when I'm with others my mind is often on making sure their needs are met and I tend to modify myself to fit the situation.. as many of us do. This can be exhausting and we can start to lose touch with who we really are if all our energy is put outward. Being alone gives us space to be ourselves without the judgement of others or the need to please and care for everyone around us. In these moments we can give all our love and attention to ourselves. For a while recently when I was alone a lot of judgement, anger, self-hatred and worry was coming up. The more I lean into alone time and accept it, the more I notice these negative feelings dissipate. Tonight I spent time doing things that I enjoy.. singing, working out, dancing, making delicious food, yoga, listening to chill music. I didn't have to worry if my singing was bad, if my dance moves looked ridiculous, if the food wasn't what someone else wanted, if I was doing the yoga moves right, if the music was pleasing to someone else.... I just got to enjoy my time with me doing things that feel nourishing to me. If you notice you haven't really spent that kind of alone time with yourself in a while, I really suggest you try. It may feel uncomfortable at first but I promise the more you create space for yourself, even in small moments, the easier it will get and the better you can show up in the world because you will have given your soul exactly what it is craving - your love and acceptance.





Spending time alone also strengthens our ability to set boundaries. In those moments, we get clear on what we need—what nourishes us and what drains us—and we can start to honour those boundaries more in our interactions with others. It’s through this self-respect that we’re able to show up for others in a more authentic, grounded way.

Time alone can also become a sacred space, where we align with something greater than ourselves—whether it’s nature, our inner spirit, or a higher power. In those quiet moments, we’re reminded that we are part of something larger, and in reconnecting with that truth, we can find peace.


Thoughts to Contemplate:

  • What does solitude bring up for you? Is it peace, discomfort, or something else entirely?

  • How might you begin to create small moments of aloneness in your day to reconnect with yourself?

  • When you’re alone, are you able to let go of the need to please or take care of others? What would it feel like to just be in that space?

  • How can you practice self-compassion when difficult emotions arise during your alone time?

  • What boundaries are you currently neglecting, and how might alone time help you identify and honour them?


  • In what ways can you turn your solitude into a sacred space for reflection, creativity, and healing?

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